How to
Stretch Time - 24 Hours Is Enough!
By Robyn Pearce
Recently, as I participated in a
live-to-air TV training session on Time Management (for Pacific
Knowledge Television) a caller rang in with a question. He is in the
computer industry, and wanted to know how he could balance his heavy and
demanding workload with the demands of a young family. The question
lingers in my mind - for a large sector of society it is a serious
matter.
The issue is how we view time. It
seems that we never have enough.
My man desperately wanted to know
how to find the time to enjoy his children. His question is cried out in
offices, classrooms, boardrooms and homes throughout the western world.
Today many of us live in a world of
sensory overload, of speed, and a sense of time-poverty. Technology
moves faster and faster. We feel as if we can never catch up, that there
is never enough time. But it's illusion. Time hasn't changed - we have.
So - what can we do? Here are a few
strategies for you.
Whatever we Focus on Enlarges:
If our whole attention and our top priorities are our important and
demanding work, our families, our relationships and our health will
suffer. In order to find time for these areas, which so often get lip
service, three actions are needed - 'mind-space', time allocation, and
physical action. A good intention is useless unless acted on. You might
have to take time out from work to regularly do things with your family,
or for yourself. In most jobs that time will easily be made up with
extra hours, or you can arrange 'glide-time'.
What are your KPI's (Key
Performance Indicators)?
How can you judge your efficacy as a parent or partner? How much time do
you allocate? Make appointments with yourself and your family on a
weekly basis, treat them as seriously as appointments with a key client,
and you'll find the other 'stuff' fits in and around your core personal
activities.
Schedule in the Important People
In Your Week
If you don't block in 'special' time with your special people, they'll
eventually get tired of waiting. Do you remember the old song by Harry
Chapin, 'Cat's in the cradle'? The little boy, waiting for his dad to
spend time with him, kept saying, 'One day I'll be just like you'. When
his dad was an old man, longing to see the son who never came, he found
that indeed, the promise had been delivered. If you wait for 'spare
time' you'll never have it.
Live in the 'Now'
Today many of us have forgotten how to live in the moment. We make
bedfellows of stress and anxiety. We focus either on the past and what
we could have done better, or in the future - planning or worrying over
coming events. We're so busy squeezing more in to every moment that most
of us forget to be 'present'. We therefore miss the joy of the
experience. And so time seems to race by - because we're not 'in' it.
Change Your Language
Notice your words, and how the people around you speak. How often do you
hear 'I'm so busy', 'I can't fit it in', 'I have no time', and 'I'm
always late/overworked/tired/have too much to do'? Start to use
affirmations like 'I'm getting much better at my time management' or
'There is always enough time to do the things that matter'.
An Attitude of Gratitude
Practice honouring the moment. Develop a sense of gratitude for the gift
of life, for the beauty of small things. Find something in every event
to appreciate. This is not just 'Pollyanna' behaviour - it will enhance
your health and stretch your hours.
Enjoy the Mundane
Next time you wash the dishes, the car, mow the lawns, feed the
children, sort out the paperwork on your desk or any other simple task,
enjoy the activity for itself. Try not to spend the time in which your
body is occupied thinking about something else. Don't wish the task was
completed - honour the moment and the experience. You'll be more relaxed
when you finish. Time will expand instead of leaving you with the
feeling of hurry, pressure and impatience often felt with a mundane
task. And many times you'll be surprised to find that it was a pleasant
duty instead of the chore you didn't want to do.
Meditate
Learn to meditate, or if this seems too hard, try every day to sit
quietly for at least 10 minutes. Focus on a plant or some other object.
As thoughts drift into your mind acknowledge them and let them go.
Breathe deeply from your abdomen, mentally saying 'Breathe out' with
every outgoing breath and 'Breathe in' with every incoming breath. This
helps you slow down to the natural rhythms around you. It 'stretches'
time.
About the author:
Robyn Pearce, of TimeLogic Corporation, has helped 1000's of folks in
'Getting a grip on their time'. Visit
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